How I Became the Kind of Person Who Can Work a Room |


Moments when two is better than one!

Then one of my colleagues told me about the trick he uses: When he walks into a room alone, he looks for pairs of people who are talking, and introduces himself to each person.

I had always thought I was supposed to approach people who were by themselves. So I asked him: “If two people are talking already, why would I interrupt them?”

“Because everyone else is there to meet other people, too,” he explained. He went on to explain that if you see a pair of people talking, the chances are that they arrived together and know they should be mingling. Or else they’ve just met and are, in the back of their minds, worried that they’re going to end up talking to this one person all night. (You’ve just made it easier for one of them to exit.) Either way, they’re relieved to see you. And your chances of having a decent conversation are better, because now you’re talking to two people, not just one.

Consider the alternatives: Approaching one person makes it harder to extricate yourself. And if you can find absolutely nothing in common with that other person, you’re sort of stuck, at least for a while. Plus, it’s getting harder to approach someone who’s alone, because self-conscious people who don’t have anyone to talk to will stare into their phones and give off the ‘I’m so busy’ vibe–even if they want to mingle. Breaking into a knot of four or more people is really hard. So groups of two are your best bet.

How I Became the Kind of Person Who Can Work a Room |


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